Normally its pretty cut and dry. It's not wise to call sisters late at night (depending on which church your a part of that could be 10, 11, or 12). but in the age where we can contact every part of the world through facebook, myspace, and even Dtspace late at night becomes unclear to me. for example. for me it may be 2am when this sister says hi to me on facebook but 2pm where she is. What are your thoughts on that subject? (lets not discuss why im up at 2am, im still trying to adjust to being on this side of the hemisphere). Now granted there is no scripture that says we can't talk to someone at any time but I'm more talking about what you think is wise. Your thoughts are appreciated.

Well of course there is no one answer fits all to this query but  the one constant is acting in wisdom(Pro 3:13, Eph 1:8).  Why you (or anyone) are/is up at 2am does have a lot to do with the situation. Although its not biblical, the saying "An idle mind is the Devil's workshop," is a practical truth we would do well to take heed of.  Of course that's not limited to specific times so having a "cut-off" time is won't be a cure-all.  It's not enough to come up with a time and say after such-and-such time is too late to speak with anyone of the opposite sex, you must understand and have conviction of the reason for such precautions.  Generally people get more relaxed and, for lack of a better term, less vigellent after a certain time when the evening is winding down. Brothers and sisters may become a bit more flirtatious or 'warmer' in these wee hours and having a conversation "seasoned with salt" (Col 4:6) becomes a bit more challenging.  Some brothers and sisters would say they don't 'struggle' with that but we must remember that Satan is subtle and crafty; these changes may not be drastic but very subtle changes that plant little deposits which compound overtime, and at the right time Satan will cash in on the investment.  "Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." -Mat 26:41. So its important to know yourself and to be your brother's (sister's) keeper, protecting them even if you are OK. As to what time is to be considered late? I think that depends on the person, pretense, and prayer -"Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come." -John 16:13

Walk in the Spirit of Truth,

YBIC

Fiseha

I would say that calling somebody depends on many things:

1) What type of relationship do you share with this person? 

If you are interested in (dating) this person (regularly)applying some self control would be advised. Personally, I do not call ANY sisters after 10 PM. Night time is when you sit back, relax, and possibly allow yourself to say things that you shouldn't say to others, especially that special sister. It's more important to have self control with somebody you have an interest (in dating).

2)What time is it where they are?

I went steady with a sister who started the church in Athens Greece (about 8 hours difference).I had to call her at midnight on Fridays where I was, so she could get the call on Saturday mornings. I also have a sister in Hawaii (6 hours difference) who I call at midnight where I am, so she can get the call at 6 PM when she gets home from work. I highly advise that you pray before you make such calls, so as to keep your heart right during such late hours of the night.

3) What time do they go to bed and what time do they need to wake up by?

People can call me until 1 AM, because that is when I go to bed, but some sisters go to bed at 9PM or 10 PM. Don't keep a sister on the phone until midnight if she needs to wake up at 6 AM. You are just making it harder on her for the next day. So, know what times are best for her. By the way, if you are interested in (dating) this person (regularly), you will earn a lot of respect from that sister if you limit your time with her. A few sisters have called me after 11 PM recently, and though we had righteous conversations, I cut them off at midnight, just for the sake of self control. It shows them that you will lead them down a righteous path when they are talking to you.

4) What time are you BOTH comfortable in being on the phone. 15 minutes, 30 minutes, 1 hour? I try not to exceed an hour with a sister that I am interested in. I also do not push full force to go an hour, as sometimes 15 minutes is all you need. If you push too hard to go an hour, you might end up with a lot of meaningless and or boring conversations, and she just might lose interest in you. I do allow myself to go for 3 hours on the phone with once sister. She is in a nursing home and needs visitors and phone calls to keep up her spirit.

5) Are you telling the sister how awesome and great YOU are, or are you telling her how awesome and great she is?

Pride comes before destruction. If you tell people how awesome and great you are all the time, you are just going to push people away. I know some brothers that do this. (I confess, I am an ex boaster) Boasting just turns people off. The brothers that I know that have been doing this for over 10 years are clueless why no sisters have ever had an interest in them. I have told them over and over, but they do not change. I know brothers who won't go on dates, because they do not know what to say to a sister on a date. Right now I hand out a list of things to say to sisters on a date, like ask them their favorite scripture, or what they do for a living, what there major in college was, why they chose that major...and more. I tell them that the secret to a relationship is not forcing your life down somebodies throat, but it is encouraging one another daily (for as long as it is called today), asking questions to get to know them, answering their questions without boasting, and listening to them. LISTEN!!! Personally, I know a brother who never stops telling people how smart he is. He even goes to the point of making up amusing facts (which in reality are lies) to impress people. People often compare him to "Cliff" from the TV Show "Cheers" who never stopped putting people into a coma with his drawn out conversations about subjects that nobody cared about in the first place. Be wise and be humble and be righteous when you talk to others.

6)Don't let your emotions bring out the worst in you.

I know some brothers who ask me what they are doing wrong in dating. Besides boasting (as mentioned above), people can let their emotions get the best of them. Being somebody with depression, or being manic depressive, or being schizoaffective (all of which requires depression for the diagnosis) can really rub people the wrong way. A brother that I know. I walked up to him on Sundays and Wednesdays (and other days too) and I would hug him and ask him how he was doing. In 12 years he must have said "life sucks" (excuse me for being so harsh) just to me, over 1000 times. Right now he lives in a shelter, because he is so angry, or depressed, or frustrated to the point that he is unwelcome to live in other peoples homes. I know a brother who is manic depressive who is either hyper and jumping around like a child, or who is angry and jumping around like an enraged escaped gorilla. Sisters are very scared to get to know somebody who can go from one extreme to the other in a few seconds. Emotions can also lead you to lust. Be on your guard for lusting when talking with a sister on the phone. Pray about being in control of your emotions. I will also say this: People who have the biggest problems with their emotions, usually admit it or ask for help with it the least.