Hello Family,

I have been a disciple for over 10 years. I was a single mother with a four year old son who wound up getting married to a disciple as I matured in Christ.

Thing is, my ex wasn't really in the picture until a few years ago. My husband and I are still faithful and I remain somewhat "friends/cordial" with my ex and his wife.

Now, my son who is a teen (a kingdom kid) wants to leave myself and my husband in order to move in with my ex and his wife. My son said that he would rather live there and he doesn't like my husband.

My delimma is I have received conflicting advice from my leaders and other disciples and not too many people have been in the same situation. I need to hear if there are any other parents out there that can lend wisdom and experience to me as I am very sad about this.

I love my son tremendously and want nothing but the best for him. My ex doesnt hate God but he is very "wordly" and goes out clubbing, drinking, and could really care less for what I think. I haven't had cooperation from him in regards to parenting because he said that he doesn't agree with a lot of what we are trying to train our teenager in.

He thinks we are stifling the boy and he needs to "live" and experience what the "real world is like".

The conflicting advice is that some people have said if your son wants to go then let him go. Let him see what it's like over there.

Others have said letting him go is not the answer as that is like saying you're giving up on him. God will never give you more than you can handle and your son needs to be around Godly parents that love him even though he may not agree with you.

Mind you most of the people that we have spoken to are blended families but they don't have to contend or deal with an ex. We seem to be the only couple out here and we have prayed, read, talked a lot. We are trying to make a Godly and wise decision as this is serious.

Does any one else out there know of anyone I can talk to about this that has been through this or is going through this?

Thank you.

Your sister in Christ.