http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Disciples and Divorce Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Would like to know of other Disciples in the Church that are going through or have been through a divorce. I could use some insight, advice,encouragement. Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#450 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I became a disciple in 1994. My wife at the time was 100% against me becoming a Christian. She would 'test' me in many ways. I remember calling Mark Harris who was leading our region at the time and asking if I could divorce her since she had been unfai Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#452 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello. I have been a discple for 10 1/2 years. I was married in 2002. We moved to be near my husbands family and a year later he was commiting adultery. We are now divorced, and I could use some others that can relate! Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#457 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Brothers and Sisters,   It is issues like this one that I believe will be the best use of this forum.  As one who has been in the church for 15 years, I am from the OLD school: where it was preached from the pulpit that members simply Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#494 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hey there   I have been through divorce and has come out the other side. Like Tammyt My first husband was unfaithful and he handed me papers for divorce Like the scripture say if the unbeliever wants to go then we are to let the Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#496 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello everyone I am not married, but I would like to know as disciples when did DIVORCE become an option?    I have Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#499 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello everyone I am not married, but I would like to know as disciples when did DIVO Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#514 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Bob Velez   Sorry but I don't consider GOD's word as a trap to do what is right, I follow the scriptures, not man's advice.   Thank you for your response and God bless.   Jen Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#516 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm This reply is to Jen,   I do take offense to your comments. No one goes into a marriage with the expectation that divorce is in the future. It is very critical and judgmental for you to put yourself higher then those who have gotten a d Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#517 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello Bob,   I wouldl ike to hear your story. I know you had mentioned to talk to you privatly I am not sure how to do that. My personal email is cwdriver71@hotmail.com.  Tammy, I wouldn't mi Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#518 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hi everyone! I encourage you to study I Corinthians 7 carefully, deeper and detail. I find that those who want to stay single or married or divorce have to have purpose in Him (Godly purpose). Those who want to stay sin Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#520 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I hope that all who contribute to the discussion can be respectful and mindful of each other.   Jen, I never said that God's word was a "trap".  I think that humans can fall INTO a trap using ancient texts to answer EVERY question that Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#522 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Hi everyone!   I encourage you to study I Corinthians 7 carefully, deeper and detail. I find that those who want to stay single or married or divorce have to have purpose in Him (Godly purpos Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#523 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Christina Please do not assume you know me or my situation.  I was married in the world and divorced in the world. Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#525 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Christina Please do not assume you know me or my situation.  I was married in Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#526 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hey Stephen, I appreciate your input. Very clean. Tell me how to get the spaces between your pp? Ok back to the point Rom 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace w/ everyone. These 'd Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#528 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   How do you get the spaces between your pp?     I just hit "enter."   And Byron, I agree with you. The Bible should always be our standard. Yes, everything in it needs to b Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#529 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm No apologies are necessary, Byron.  One of the drawbacks of this form of communication is that we are unable to know each other's thoughts, prayers, and convictions.   The Bible is certainly the standard I was converted into.  However Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#530 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Brother and Sisters please don’t give Satan a foothold and allowing him to get our emotions in a twist…. Yes we have differe Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#531 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm StephenH: Indeed, you are correct; my blanket statement about discipling relationships prior to 2003 was ill-founded.  I must retract that statement as not all discipling relationships prior to 2003 should be broadly characterized as "fabricated". Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#535 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Dear Bob Velez, It seems that you have problems with rules and check list. Do you have any bad experiences or bitterness with that? Actually the main mistakes of Pharisees are their hypocrisy and misinterpretation to the word of God. Th Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#539 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I am not happy to see that other disciples are going through or have gone through a similar experience to the one that I am going through, but it is comforting to know that I am not alone.  I am a new disciple, baptized on June 1, 08.  I am presently Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#543 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm ... My husband completely turned on me during that conversation and abandoned our marriage  He refuses to discuss a reconciliation. I have prayed long and hard about this, I've read many scriptures ov Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#548 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Thank you for opeing your heart and the anguish you have been going through. I will keep you in our prayers and hope that God clears a path for you. Divorce is hard for anyone. Whether or not you get divorced remember that God loves you and he will use Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#550 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Thanks to those of you who responded to my post, and for your prayers for my husband and myself.  I will continue praying for you as well.  Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#553 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm LuAnne,   Thank you for sharing your story.  Ultimately, we know that God works for the good in ALL things irrespective of our mistakes and choices.   Naek: I don't have a problem with rules.  As a parent, I understan Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#554 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Brother Bob Velez, I admire Pharisees for their certain qualities. Especially their ZEAL and DISCIPLINE. I found many Christian today not that zeal and discipline but even lazy and so weak will. I mentioned in my previous post "have to" Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#558 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm This is more of the same "rule book" mentality.  Jesus challenged the Pharisees who were accustomed to using scripture as a rule book.  Why should we not challenge modern-day Pharisees who do the same thing? Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#561 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Matthew 19:9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries ano Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#562 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Brother Bob Velez,   I admire Pharisees for their certain qualities. Especially their ZEAL and DISCIPLINE. I found many Christian today not that zeal and discipline but even lazy and so weak will. I Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#563 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Matthew 19:9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for ma Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#564 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello everyone!! I am a recently divorced mother of two. I am divorced becasue he was "unhappy" and he did not want to be unhappy for the rest of his life, he states. We had been married for almost 14 years and in the ch Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#569 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Ok Brother Bob Velez. Thank you for responding to my post. Doesnt matter who win or lose. Because we are BROTHERS IN CHRIST (It a title of song we produce. See my profile - Music Gallery) Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#571 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm My ex and I were both baptized in 93' on the same day, in which I got to baptize her after getting baptized and we were married in 94'.  We separated in Jan 2006 after learning 3 days before my 12 anniversary that my wife was unfaithful.  The only rea Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#572 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Brother and Sisters please don’t give Satan a foothold and allowing him to get our emotio Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#591 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I'm very grateful that this is a topic that we can speak about.  Sadly this is affecting many many people in the world.  I believe that if you or someone you know is going through this, they are very lucky to have a disciple help them heal.  This m Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#595 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm You know, people do not always have a choice in divorce! You cannot make your spouse stay. And how long would someone stand for adulterous affairs in their marriage? Peop Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#600 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   You know, people do not always have a choice in divorce! You cannot make your spouse stay. And how long would someone stand for adulterous affairs in their marriage? People do leave God. And if God is not number one, Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#603 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I hope this question comes out correctly! Since we are divorced I have a question. Since we are disciples does anyone feel different about dating or going on dates? For example the wise rules" you go with another couple or group" which is not biblical. Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#606 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm           Well, I started this thread and I guess it's my time to pipe in.I wanted to hear from others that have gone through what may be their greatest spiritual challenge ever. Some have encouraged me. Some are very bitter still. But I appr Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#612 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Fred I jus Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#615 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm ...does anyone feel different about dating or going on dates? For example the wise rules" you go with another couple or group" which is not biblical. I sometimes get confused because brothers are all different( which i Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#616 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   I hope this question comes out correctly! Since we are divorced I have a question. Since we are disciples does anyone feel different about dating or going on dates? For example the wise rules" you go with another cou Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#617 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm In response to Christine71,   I dated and married the man God had finally intended me to be with. I do not regret marring my first husband as we are now friends and I have a wonderful son from that relationship. I dated in doubl Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#619 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I'm just going to throw my story out there, hopefully it helps, God has done some amazing things to get me through this. I was baptized in Phoenix in 1987.  My ex-wife and I were married in the church, after  meeting shortly after my baptism, Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#621 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm CB & Fred, I say Amen! That is so right. I appreciate both your stories, remembering God's grace, and forgiveness for us, allowing us to get past bitterness and truly grow more Christlike in our ability to show grace and forgiveness, are to Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#622 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm     For many years the only way that the church could reconcile i Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#623 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm              So, what does God say about divorce? It's simple really. He says no.  I believe that this statement is patently false.   Divorce was an accepted practice in the Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#624 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   What I do think is that it is irresponsible and arrogant for someone to believe that they have the answer to everything because they have the Bible.   These are very difficult Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#628 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I will answer Bob quoting Dave Ramsey.   Bob had said: My convictions on this topic have been shaped over the Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#632 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   I will answer Bob quoting Dave Ramsey.   Bob had said: My c Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#634 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello All...........   There definitely has been a lot of discussion since the response to my last post.   To clarify my situation, I have not filed for divorce yet.  It is something that I have decided to do, but I am Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#635 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm hi there this rusty in yucca.i got married ,then we got divorced in church.now single. Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#674 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm It's not a surprise to me that this topic has brought on so much emotion.  It Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#680 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   It's not a surprise to me that this topic has brought on so Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#684 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm AmyJo..........thank you for speaking out and being so honest.  I as well, say a big "AMEN!" to you.  I'm sure you are a blessing to those you reach out to.    Your sister in Christ..............LuAnne Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#698 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello all.... I'd like to ask anyone that's willing, to pray for me.  Within the next couple of weeks, I will be meetin Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#740 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm LuAnne,   I'll be praying for you. It is hard when your separated(or in my case ex) comes to you and says I want to talk. In my case he asked ifI wanted to remarry him. He wasn't a disciple so my answer was clear. It isn Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#748 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Thank you so much for your words of wisdom.   Amyjo, how did your meeting with your husband turn out?     I will continue to pray for you.   Christina Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#799 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Greetings.........it's been awhile since anyone's posted here, I see.  I'm still awaiting the visit from my husband.  He calls weekly, each time saying he's coming the next week.  I refuse to second guess the situati Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#837 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello, this round of conversation is all very distressing to me.  I am happily married, in the church, post 2004, however I have known people(some very close friends) who have divorced in the church.  I DO NOT personally understand, n Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#845 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Going through my divorce was very very tough. Life has presented me many choices. We are all given many choices. Sometimes we make good choices, sometimes we make bad choices, sometimes we make bad choices but don't want Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#847 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Thanks Sofismom, for sharing, and for your prayers and support.  It means a great deal to me that even tough you and I have never met, you are praying for me.  Our "Family" is so wonderful, and I thank God for you. I am a firm believer Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#849 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Good morning all......I'm writing to thank those of you who have been praying for my husband and our marital situation.   I'm here to say that our God is an awesome God.  Well, after nearly six months, I unexpectedly Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#879 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm LuAnne,   That's very encouraging. Thanks for sharing.   I'll continue praying for your husband's heart.   Stephen Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#881 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm as a widower who got married in the kingdom i have one (well maybe a few things) to say on this topic. anyone that got married in HIS kingdom should never divorce. mof,they should never think about it. husbands, if you kept wooing your wife the way you Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#882 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello All....I wish I had something encouraging to post.  Truth is, I'm trying not to be DIScouraged, and am quite truthfully angry.  I was very hopeful when my husband saw me a couple of weeks ago, that the Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#910 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Luanne, I would like to encourage you. I can definitely relate! My ex frustrates me a lot too! I am the one who has the kids 100% of the time. I was in a car accident and now am on Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#915 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Thanks Tammy for replying to my post, and for encouraging me.  It is so very important, I know, not to get all wrapped up in anger and resentment towards my husband.  I definitely plan to speak to him about my grandchildren the next time he ca Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#918 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm oh, my dear disciples that are going through what i am going through.  I can surely use prayers and advice on staying strong, and pure in this time of trail.  I too am going through a divorce from my having an afair with a friend of mine.  He and i a Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#932 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   oh, my dear disciples that are going through what i am going through.  I can surely use prayers and advice on staying strong, and pure in this time of trail.  I too am going through a divorce from my having an afai Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#938 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Bob - thank you so much for the response and the encouragment.  One thing I was taught early on in my life as a disciple is to be open about your sin and willing to get advice and help for your repentance of such sin.  Therefore, I am an open book, an Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#945 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   as a widower who got married in the kingdom i have one (well maybe a few things) to say on this topic. anyone that got married in HIS kingdom should never divorce. mof,they should never think about it. husbands, if Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#946 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I can surely use prayers and advice on staying strong, and pure in this time of trail.  I too am going through a divorce from my having an afair with a friend of mine.  He and i are stil Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#948 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Oh my gosh, I am so greatful for all of the love and support through this time, but I am not the one who had the affair (typo on my part - sorry).  My soon-to-be-ex is the one who had the affair.  Now that is not to say that I was and am not still tem Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#951 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Hello All....I wish I had something encouraging to post.  Truth is, I'm trying not to be DIScouraged, and am quite truthfully angry.  I was very hopeful when my husband s Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#954 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Christina........I appreciate your honest and heartfelt comments.  Recently I started reading a book called "The Emotionally Destructive Relationship...seeing it, stopping it, surviving it".  This book, with the scriptural references it includ Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#957 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Hello All....I wish I had something encouraging to post.  Truth is, I'm trying not to be DIScouraged, and am quite truthfully angry.  I was very hopeful when my husband s Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#958 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Christina........I appreciate your honest and heartfelt comments.  Recently I started reading a book called "The Emotionally Destructive Relationship...seeing it, stopping it, surviving it".  This book, with the sc Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#959 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm  I find it funny that people quote scripture that they want it to pertain to trying to get their point across but no one knows exactly what the Bible says word for word. The Bible Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#967 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Hello Everyone! I was very encouraged to see someone start a discussion about this topic.  It has touched so many different lives in God's churches!  I was recently divorced this September.  My husband an Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#999 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to All I just found this message board and wanted to pop in and say hello. My long story short: I dated and was married in church; we were married for 6 years. Jan 2008 he left me...August 2008 I found Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1000 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Dear Sarah,   I am sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortantly there is no set time. Each individual person needs time to heal. As far as deciding to join singles or not, I would hang out with both and give yourself time to decide w Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1001 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm     Wow, it is amazing how many marrieges are struggling and ending up in divorce, especially sense the changes.  I am one of them, so I am not passing judgement, but empathy.   Two things t Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1003 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Dear Sarah, I am sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortantly there is no set time. Each individual person needs time to heal. As far as deciding to join singles or not, I would hang out with both a Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1004 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Happy New Year! How is everyone doing? Good start to a new year so far? Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1020 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Sarah, I can understand feeling like an outcast. Even though I had not done wrong, and tried my hardest to reconcil, there were times I felt so alone, even within the Church.  And after the divorce, I really felt out of place in our Marrieds fa Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1025 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Sarah, I can understand feeling like an outcast. Even though I had not done wrong, and tried my hardest to reconcil, there were times I felt so alone, even within the Church.  And after the divorce, I really f Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1030 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm After 18 months of separation, attempts to meet with my husband to discuss our marriage, advice seeking and prayer, I ultimately filed for a divorce.  It will be final in September.  Thanks to all who encouraged me and prayed for me.  I've had a lot Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1214 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm There are several subjects on DTSpace that attracted a lot of emotions and lots of spirituality.  A post on dating outside the church also attracted about 60 posts.   Personally I am single (but don't jump on to next subject please.)  A struggle I h Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1595 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I am not married yet, but some of my best friends have been married in the church. 2 come to mind quickly. Both of whom I told that both them and their girlfriend's were not focused on God, and that would hurt their relationship. The first brother loved Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1597 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I am divorced. Before a couple gets married there are a few things they should do (we did not). Do not sweep problems under the rug and smooth over recurrent problems. They must be addressed gently, but head on. If the problem(s) IS NOT resolved within Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1768 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Bob Velez   Sorry but I don't consider GOD's word as a trap to do what is right, I follow the scriptures, not man's advice.   Thank you for your response and God bless.   Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1776 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm I have never been married. However, I have been around a lot of diciples who have been divorced. I have been a disciple for 24 years and was in the mainline 7 years before that. I realize what the scriptures about divorce say at face value. However, Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1790 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Dear all, 4 years ago I married a disciple. 10 months ago he left the church and abandoned me. He hasn't been unfaithful. Wants a divorce. I'm against it. Your experience, if you've been in such a situation or have witn Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1828 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm   Dear all,   4 years ago I married a disciple. 10 months ago he left the church and abandoned me. He hasn't been unfaithful. Wants a divorce. I'm against it.   Your experience, if you Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1832 http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm Thank you. But as you can see, I asked for experience, not Bible verses. Do you think I don't know them? He's not factually an unbeliever, not a member of this church. Thu, 10 May 2012 10:02:52 GMT http://www.dtspace.net/orca/topic/Disciples-and-Divorce.htm#1841