Please pray my marriage -  for my wife & I  to be really good friends. Pray for me to have a healthy balance in managing my time spent on the computer and quality time w/ my wife & family.

Thanks & Stuff  BDP

I will pray for this in its entirety as I already have. I also offer this advice, look deep into what is important to you. Write this down and see if your actions say the same thing your heart does. A healthy balance for a man who asks for such a prayer may be to stop using the computer altogether. God has blessed us with the ability to communicate across a great distance with very little difficulty, but do not let this hinder your communication that is ever more present beside you. You should take great consideration of the marriage of your youth and the family God has blessed you with. I do not know your exact situation and perhaps your job requires the computer. With this I recommend that you get your work done and get off as to make that time for your wife. Perhaps to help out invite your wife to participate in the times that you are on the computer. 

Hey, BDP, I will pray for you.  I do agree with Cory--maybe you need to look at WHAT you're doing on the computer.  If it's finances, even spiritual things (such as this board) that's okay.  But if it's just surfing  . . . let God guide you.  What WOULD Jesus do?  :-)

Thank you both for your concern & consideration. The counsel of many.... I really appreciate you taking the time to "get in my boat". I've talked w/ my wife and w/ the guys in my family group. She has felt "abandoned". We were talking in our Family Group about how sometimes we do "good things" and neglect more important things. A healthy balance is what we're looking for.

Anyways, Reb & I talked about everything and we decided together that I would spend two hours a day and then also have time on my nights off. (I work nights and stay up on my nights off - otherwise it messes up my sleep schedule). I'm going to make sure that I be responsible w/ this and not miss out on spending time w/ my family.

What I do on the computer is this... Mostly time w/ this endeavor, finances, etc. I don't do a whole lot of "surfin". I also have two people in Atlanta helping w/ the "Singles" and "Campus" Prayer Groups. I know that my "family ministry" is above all other ministries I have. "Workplace, Neighborhood, This Global Prayer thingy, etc...

Continue to pray for me to have the right balance and to have self-discipline.

Much Luv, YBIC, BDP

hi bro, thanks for inviting me to join the group...i will pray for your situation. you are not alone, there are situations like that in manila that affect christian marriages...one example is a couple dear to us. same situation, the brother got so busy at work and it really affected their marriage and their children...right now, they were being counselled and worked out...hope you will not come to this point....my husband and i learned a lesson from them and we are praying that this couple too will overcome what they have beent through.

I know what you mean and I can understand how your wife may feel. I have a husband that works from2am till 10:30am

Monday through Friday and I have learned that I too have to give sometimes. I realize that the abandoned feeling comes from Satan alone. My husband needs to rest during the time I am up and I am sleeping during the time he is at work which is 1:30am till 1-2pm. It is my job as his wife to support him and the household when hes resting and it is his job to provide physical and spiritual support for the family. I think also to make the most of the time when you are both together as well. Don't spend time bickering with each other(not that I think you do). That is and was a weakness of mine and I had to learn that there are times to do everything under heaven. I can be very Forceful to put it mildly and

my husband is more like Christ as he wouldn't bruise a reed. I learned that if I was upset about something i need to write it down and bring it up at the right time not just when I think its right. I want my husband to look forward to our time together not dreading it because it becomes a ragg on session. OK i'm coming off my soapbox now. I hope this helps. Remember Judges6:14 to do in the strength you have. It is well to have the other intrests but you do need to balance things out.  When I feel Abandoned I have to figure out why. It isnt because my husband has abandoned me but how am I with God?